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The Sex Will Be Better

As part of the continuing column, "Why Be A Male Feminist?" I present reason #2:

The Sex is Better

With the first reason being a little abstract, I figured I should hit off the second reason with something visceral: as a male feminist, the sex will be better.

A central tenant of feminism is sexual autonomy.  This has the obvious broad policy implications, such as pro-choice policies and sex education.  It has social and cultural implications, such as reducing frequent media practices like slut-shaming and objectification of people.

But as described in the first entry in this feature, feminism is more than broad based policy, but also individual lifestyle.  Part of sexual autonomy means acknowledging the myriad influences that society has on our sexual choices and making those choices because we want to make them, rather than from societal pressure.

So, let's talk about what this all means practically.  Well, if you're willing to acknowledge societal pressures to do or not do things, you can overcome those pressures or succumb to them, however you choose.  It means communicating with your partner(s), respecting what they do and do not want.  If you're able to communicate (and it takes practice), then you're able to achieve a very healthy openness.

Let's say it plain: if you can talk about sex openly with your partner, your sex will be better.  Even though it isn't always easy, if you're both able and willing to talk about what you want, what you like, what you don't like, and give each other feedback, it gets better.  A lot better.