Hey all. I have recently had some ludicrously levels of user registration spam. I've installed some new things that should minimize this. (There were a lot). If I accidentally removed you by mistake or if you're getting caught in spam, email me at jeff [at] mendaredo.com
I am currently transferring my domain registration from the ludicrously sexist godaddy.com (yes, I know I should have done this a while ago) to my fine hosting provider, Lithium. The site might be down for 24 hours as the DNS resets.
This also might indicate I'll be posting more. We'll see.
Some search terms that bring people to this blog for this past 30 days (put down for my general amusement/bemusement purposes):
#1: reverse sexism
#7: feminist dating advice
#11: feminist jargon
#13: why are men always horny
#16: derogatory terms for men
#21: men pink underwear
#22: pink underwear for men
#33: whats man do on the internet
#39: "o, what men dare do! what men may do! what men daily do, not knowing what they do!" [Jeff commentary: aha! Someone found out how I got the name of this blog!]
#49: alimony sexist against men
#50: anger horny female
#52: are male suppost to have sex with lots of women
#54: big girls dont cry but guess what i did
As some of my RL friends might know, I've been out in the Plains for work since mid-April. While out here, I've been working pretty long hours and haven't really had a whole lot of time to read the news, let alone post on this blog. Now with a bit more time, I'm hoping I can start blogging again!
We had some downtime this morning due to my host's DNS nameservers being down. I'm using a different nameserver from them, so it should be working now.
I apologize for the downtime and to Danny, whose comment I was trying to reply to this morning.
As this blog is pretty fresh (launched about ten minutes ago), bear with me as some technical glitches are still figured out.
Do feel free to e-mail me at email@example.com if you notice any technical problems or have any suggestions.
Hi. I'm Jeff, and I'm here to blog about feminism from a male perspective.
This post is a welcome post, with a bunch of disclaimers and caveats that should be considered when reading this blog. I'll try to update it as I add more content to this blog, but still keeping it reasonably short.
First, a bit about me, because it's important to understand where I'm coming from. I'm a white, middle class, heterosexual American man. I'm also a feminist (or a feminist ally, whatever you choose). How I came to feminism is probably something of a post of its own, so I'll leave that for later.
Being who I am, I have a lot of privileges. I'm white, so I have privileges in that regard. I'm straight. I'm middle class. And I'm a man. That's a lot of privilege. You might call me something like a "majority man," in that I come from a demographic that traditionally possesses the majority of power and wealth.
I mention this for two reasons. One, to explain my perspective and offer a bit of a mea culpa as I show my privilege in what I write. Secondly, because in the following post (and on this blog in general), I'm going to be talking about feminism reaching "men," but when I mean "men," I mean those in the demographics and in communities that feminism has the hardest time reaching: white, straight, privileged. For instance, men who don't identify as straight frequently can become involved in or learn about feminism through their own communities, queer and gender theory and the like. So when I talk about feminism not reaching "men," usually I'm referring to these majority men.
Let me begin by saying that when I talk about "feminism," it can sometimes seem like I'm talking about some monolithic movement, but as any feminist knows, we're a diverse and fractured movement, agreeing on perhaps a few key principles, but disagreeing on numerous issues of theory, strategy and tactics. So understand when I speak of "feminism" or the "feminist movement," I speak generally and paint with a very broad brush, not doing justice to a large and complex movement(s).
As I came to feminism, I soon began to realize that there weren't a lot of people like me involved. That's not to say that there aren't any, because there's lots of great men out as activists, writers, academics, anything and everything. But feminism is, however, perceivedas a movement for women.
It's understandable how people unfamiliar with feminism would come to that conclusion. Many of its outspoken theorists, its public personalities, and bloggers who run feminist blogs are women (or at least not men), and the issues they discuss frequently are about women. I'm not making a judgment on that fact (it's understandable why this is), but merely an observation.
That's not to say there aren't men out there, because there are, and that's not to say that feminist blogs don't cover men's issues, because they do, but few blogs cover men's issues from a feminist perspective, fewer still from a male feminist perspective and yet fewer still exclusively.
And why is that necessary? I believe that feminism is an ideology for everyone. Some would disagree, and say that feminism is a women's movement designed for women. I think that feminism can and should be a movement for everyone.
It's difficult for men to come to feminism for what I think are two major reasons.
Firstly, men have privilege. There are many clear incentives for men to maintain the heteronormative patriarchy, the system that grants us many privileges and preferences. Those incentives are clear for any consumer of modern culture, any person in the modern workplace, any person living in this country or others. The incentives for rejecting that system aren't clear in our culture, our body politic, or our country.
And that leads to the second point: feminism has a hard time reaching majority men. A lot of "feminism" is directed towards women: from formal academic theory to casual blog posts and essays, and a lot of it is written from the female perspective. Feminism frequently uses common and shared experiences between women to make any number of its points. To say that women have a unique perspective, different from men, on any numbers of political and cultural issues is nothing radical. In frequently framing feminism within that perspective, feminism loses its ability to be accessible to men as it is women.
My blog and my part:
And thus, this blog is born. I certainly can't do a whole lot to change the first reason I mentioned: I'm just one guy and I can't change a system by myself, but I can change in some small way the second, by writing about feminism from a male perspective. I hope that this blog, acting as a platform for content about politics, culture and everything under the sun using the common and shared experience of "man" the same female feminists do for women, helps to make feminism a bit more accessible, perceived as a bit more "normal" and maybe a bit more understandable.
While this blog might seem like its purpose is to spread a perspective on feminism, that is not its only purpose -- this perspective, my personal perspective and your perspective only grows through healthy debate and discussion and of course, dissent. As I, and hopefully you, continue to engage with all sorts of different people and each other on issues affecting feminism, our views may change and evolve. So I ask you too to participate in this blog by commenting on posts, sharing it with your friends, and always engage with each other respectfully and vigorously.
Note: this is the same content as what is currently under the "Mission" page, but I'm posting it here to get it on to the front page.